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On the nature of depression
Depression sucks.
I know a number of people who deal with depression on a regular basis. The most common symptom I see when it comes to depression is unhappiness about a perceived lack of self-worth. This can be anything from, "I'm not worth spending this money on" to "I'm such a horrible person and I don't know why anybody even wants to waste time on a worthless slug like me!" There's lots of points in between too.
Just about everybody gets depressed now and again. Self-worth is a very hard thing to pin down but it comes from the inside. Introspection goes to the inside and questions and what-ifs until you're blue in the face - then it gets serious.
Some friends of mine say Depression Lies. This is actually pretty accurate.
When depression talks it talks about the bad stuff. It takes any bit of bad stuff and blows it up into a crisis of epic proportions whether it's a crisis or not. It takes anything questionable and paints it as bad stuff, then does the same thing it does to real bad stuff. It discounts anything good as being either an aberration or unreal.
Discounting real stuff as freak chance is bad enough. Warping neutral into awful is worse.
Depression can breed hopelessness. For example, there have been times I haven't been able to do any work around the house because it looks like a giant solid mass to get done. In truth it's been lots of littler tasks, but I couldn't see that.
Depression is not easy to deal with. If the above points sound like you on a regular basis, discounting the good whilst being miserable in the bad, I suggest doing the following:
1) Concentrate on what is. Yes, there may be bad stuff. There is also good stuff and it matters at least as much as the bad stuff.
2) Remember that it's not all one giant wave of stuff coming at you. Each little task you finish gets a little bit done, and that little bit comes out of the big mass. It's not quite as big after that.
3) If it's hard getting anything at all done, look at a single tiny thing - anything from a single dish to a single piece of trash. Do that one single thing. Wash that dish. Put that piece of trash in the trash. It's just one little thing. Thing is, once you've started doing that one little thing don't let it stop you from doing something similar again.
4) If none of the above work at all, or they don't work very well most of the time, please look into professional help. Professionals can help by listening and by prescribing any medicines that may be appropriate to help balance your brain's chemistry, because make no mistake it is a bit off. It's still up to you to do the work - pick up that piece of paper, for example - but it can be easier if you have a competent professional helping you get your chemical and hormonal balance back in line.
Depression's a constant fight, and the very hopelessness it puts in a brain saps the will to fight it. Even so, fighting depression is fighting the good fight. Reach out for help if you need to - it's probably closer than you think.
I know a number of people who deal with depression on a regular basis. The most common symptom I see when it comes to depression is unhappiness about a perceived lack of self-worth. This can be anything from, "I'm not worth spending this money on" to "I'm such a horrible person and I don't know why anybody even wants to waste time on a worthless slug like me!" There's lots of points in between too.
Just about everybody gets depressed now and again. Self-worth is a very hard thing to pin down but it comes from the inside. Introspection goes to the inside and questions and what-ifs until you're blue in the face - then it gets serious.
Some friends of mine say Depression Lies. This is actually pretty accurate.
When depression talks it talks about the bad stuff. It takes any bit of bad stuff and blows it up into a crisis of epic proportions whether it's a crisis or not. It takes anything questionable and paints it as bad stuff, then does the same thing it does to real bad stuff. It discounts anything good as being either an aberration or unreal.
Discounting real stuff as freak chance is bad enough. Warping neutral into awful is worse.
Depression can breed hopelessness. For example, there have been times I haven't been able to do any work around the house because it looks like a giant solid mass to get done. In truth it's been lots of littler tasks, but I couldn't see that.
Depression is not easy to deal with. If the above points sound like you on a regular basis, discounting the good whilst being miserable in the bad, I suggest doing the following:
1) Concentrate on what is. Yes, there may be bad stuff. There is also good stuff and it matters at least as much as the bad stuff.
2) Remember that it's not all one giant wave of stuff coming at you. Each little task you finish gets a little bit done, and that little bit comes out of the big mass. It's not quite as big after that.
3) If it's hard getting anything at all done, look at a single tiny thing - anything from a single dish to a single piece of trash. Do that one single thing. Wash that dish. Put that piece of trash in the trash. It's just one little thing. Thing is, once you've started doing that one little thing don't let it stop you from doing something similar again.
4) If none of the above work at all, or they don't work very well most of the time, please look into professional help. Professionals can help by listening and by prescribing any medicines that may be appropriate to help balance your brain's chemistry, because make no mistake it is a bit off. It's still up to you to do the work - pick up that piece of paper, for example - but it can be easier if you have a competent professional helping you get your chemical and hormonal balance back in line.
Depression's a constant fight, and the very hopelessness it puts in a brain saps the will to fight it. Even so, fighting depression is fighting the good fight. Reach out for help if you need to - it's probably closer than you think.
Re: This is not a CEPT
My husband found an article about how depressives aren't deluded, that really we are seeing the truth, and most people choose to not see the dark side. Our trouble is that we can't see the flip side of the darkness, while "normals" tend to not see the dark clearly. There IS good, but the darkness is blotting it out right now, and the darkness is not a delusion, just an obstacle. *big fake cyber hugs*
Re: This is not a CEPT
(Anonymous) 2003-04-08 02:03 pm (UTC)(link)(I leave aside the problem of finding a good therapist and that I dislike the very idea of taking drugs. )
I suspect underneath all that darkness I must be an optimist after all because I do manage to see the good often enough - it takes a really bad time to get me as dark as I was in my post.
I really really am mostly OK and am working on the rest.
Don't worry Was: This is not a CEPT
(Anonymous) 2003-04-09 06:50 am (UTC)(link)Apology was: This is not a CEPT