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Sorry... the entry about CT gay marriage was from *2008*. NYTimes did not make that quite so clear as I would have liked... but I am a doofus sometimes. Entry has been privatized.
2010-10-11
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Today is National Coming Out Day.
As a heterosexual man married to a woman in a putatively-normative relationship I don't have much to come out about, and nothing personally on the LGBT spectrum although, ahem, "I have a lot of gay, lesbian, bisexual, xenophilic and transgendered friends." I do, too. Still, there is something important for me to say:
If you are gay, and scared, and I am near, I will do my best to calm you and help you.
If you are bisexual, and scared, and I am near, I will do my best to ease your troubled mind.
If you are lesbian, and scared, and I am near, I will do as best I can to remove your jitters and help you feel comfortable in your skin.
If you are transsexual, and scared, and I am near, I will do my best to make space around me a haven.
My best will help at times, but it will not always be good enough.
I may be tired, or astoundingly busy, or somebody else may have asked my help and have my focus.
You might not trust me.
I may bother you in a way that has nothing to do with your personal intimate relationships.
I may not be near.
Let's face it, I can only be in so many places at once and at least three of them are in my home.
I may not understand you.
I'm only good at speaking English. As you can see I still have a lot of it to learn - and I can only know so much of your soul.
Even so, I do care. I do not like people living their lives in pain, fear and shame.
This is at best cold comfort when you are scared and I am not there, or my help is inadequate, but I hope...
I hope...
I hope it is slightly less cold of a comfort.
As a heterosexual man married to a woman in a putatively-normative relationship I don't have much to come out about, and nothing personally on the LGBT spectrum although, ahem, "I have a lot of gay, lesbian, bisexual, xenophilic and transgendered friends." I do, too. Still, there is something important for me to say:
If you are gay, and scared, and I am near, I will do my best to calm you and help you.
If you are bisexual, and scared, and I am near, I will do my best to ease your troubled mind.
If you are lesbian, and scared, and I am near, I will do as best I can to remove your jitters and help you feel comfortable in your skin.
If you are transsexual, and scared, and I am near, I will do my best to make space around me a haven.
My best will help at times, but it will not always be good enough.
I may be tired, or astoundingly busy, or somebody else may have asked my help and have my focus.
You might not trust me.
I may bother you in a way that has nothing to do with your personal intimate relationships.
I may not be near.
Let's face it, I can only be in so many places at once and at least three of them are in my home.
I may not understand you.
I'm only good at speaking English. As you can see I still have a lot of it to learn - and I can only know so much of your soul.
Even so, I do care. I do not like people living their lives in pain, fear and shame.
This is at best cold comfort when you are scared and I am not there, or my help is inadequate, but I hope...
I hope...
I hope it is slightly less cold of a comfort.